life is expensive

the generic name is tolu. newly 20. as far as as being me goes, let's say I'm average plus a little bit extra. my ultimate principal in life is just be a lil cheeky. everyone will just love you.
me after gym #downwarddog #stretches #LIONESS

me after gym #downwarddog #stretches #LIONESS

c’est moi

c’est moi

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maya

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Iceberg Fall 2014

Iceberg Fall 2014

thoughts on happiness

What makes you happy?

 Family, friends, achievements, grades, boyfriend, girlfriend, sex, money, job, car, clothes, awards, education, accolades, title, knowledge, intellect, holidays, image, hair, shoes, food, popularity, praise, affection, attention, compliments, intimacy, twitter followers, instagram followers, comparisons to others?

 Trying to secure happiness in any of these things is dangerous.  It’s not going to work, you’ll will get momentary smiles and everything will seem ok for that moment. But when its gone, so is your ‘happiness’. It’s like holding rope above a fire, it can only last so long. As important as some of them are they’re not the answer because anything, believe it or not can change. Happiness is circumstantial, it is not consistent and if you are choosing worldly things to fulfil your spiritual desire you will never be fulfilled and you will just keep wondering why. You will continue to look in the long wrong place and continue to be empty. It’s like eating food when you’re thirsty. All you really need with water. Now you’re so full it hurts but you still feel empty. Don’t seek happiness, seek joy. Happiness is for birthday’s and graduation and weddings but joy goes beyond happiness. This should be your goal. Once you obtain joy nothing else can change that. Whether its raining or sunny you will not be moved. Joyful people are the annoying ones that are always smiling and can’t explain it. Isn’t that what we all want?  People look better when they smile. The question is just how do we get it? How do you get this deep set joy? It’s not easy but it must be possible. Without sounding cliché, it comes from within. Take a seat and get to know yourself. Appreciate, love and work on improving every level of your being from the inside out. That’s the only thing you have control of, when you’ve got that down you’re at a good place. Even if you as a person are not where you thought you would be or don’t look like you think you should look its ok because within you is the power to change that. That in itself if a wonderful thing and a reason to be joyful.

For me, God is the answer, I’m not there yet but I’ve got my backpack on and I’m on my way. I’m reading the map and looking around to navigate myself according to the instructions I have been given to get to where I now I need to be. It’s hard because I don’t know how to read a map. That wasn’t a class in school, even if it was, I probably wouldn’t have taken it. Anyway, I’m usually on track, hopefully I will get there soon. In the meantime I’m not going to stop checking the map I have because without it I would get lost and then the whole process would appear to be a frustrating waste of time.

 The key with this type of thing patience. That what makes it so expensive, time is a commodity that we don’t want to waste. We’ve developed this mindset that anything that doesn’t result in instant results is not worth doing when really at heart we know anything of value requires time and attention. We want to manage time in a way that requires least personal sacrifice but fail understand that time was never designed to be managed. Manage yourself and sacrifice what is needed because time will keep doing what it has always done. Enjoy your happiness today but work on your joy for tomorrow because you never know what will happen.

Weeping may endure for a night but joy (not happiness) comes in the morning – Psalms 30:5.

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